The Ratio - The biggest difference maker for the average man

The Ratio is, in my opinion, the biggest difference maker between average looking men who find dating easy and average looking men who find dating impossible.

What ratio am I talking about? The ratio of men to women in a given location.

When I was in high school I found dating incredibly difficult.

For reference I’m a pretty good looking guy, and was in the second half of high school, however getting dates and a girlfriend still felt like a mountain of a task at the time.

Why was this? Because my high school had a ratio of 2.3 Boys for every 1 Girl. That’s a 70/30 Boy-Girl Split.

At a micro-level, this mean’t in the common class size of 20 there would be 14 boys fighting over 6 girls. Even in a hypothetical world where the dating market was perfectly efficient 8 out of 14 guys would be left single, which is bad enough.

In real-life though, where the dating market isn’t perfectly efficient, it was even worse. In reality the dating scene looked like this:

3 of the 6 women would compete over the 2 top guys, then the other 12 guys would fight over the one remaining Mid-Attractiveness women. Essentially every single guy I knew who wasn’t in the upper tier of looks(a 7/10 or higher) got no experience throughout the entire duration of high school.

Even as a more attractive guy, I ended up only getting attention from women I felt I could do better than.

Never experiencing anything else I didn’t realize how much The Ratio was damaging my dating life, until I went to university.

I went to a large public university where I stayed in a dorm on the campus. The Universities split was a 45/55 Boy-Girl Split, and the dorms reflected this. 45/55 is nothing insane, but it’s light years better than 70/30.

Suddenly every room I was in was around an even amount of boys and girls, and man did everything get easier. Even with multiple women fighting over the top guy, there would still be women left over for the regular guys.

Now instead of 2/14 guys getting something. 6/9 guys would get some level of romantic experience.

It’s a big deal and it will be the most impactful environmental factor in how easy your dating life is.

How to Take Advantage of This?

I’m sure you understand the importance of the ratio. More women and less men equals more options and less competition. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see the importance of it.

The question is how can you manipulate it to your advantage?

1. Be intentional in your choice of your place of employment/education

I got the idea for this article when talking to my girlfriend. She works in sales at a beauty education company, and unsurprisingly her office is 80% women. When talking to her manager about their second location in Australia this is what he said.

Manager: “We have couples move to Australia to work at our office all the time. Although they usually don’t leave as a couple.”

Her: “What do you mean?”

Manager: “Most the time the man ends up cheating with someone else in the office. An outgoing guy surrounded by women, stuff just tends to happen.”

Crazy. I don’t condone cheating. I think it’s bad for both yourself and society, but there’s definitely a useful takeaway here. If you’re place of employment is 80% women the odds you meet someone you can start a relationship is extremely high. Basically every man in your office will end up with someone at some point.

The same thing applies to choosing your school or classes. If your main priority right now is finding someone, being honest with yourself is important here, then picking a school with good male to female ratio will be game changing. If you’re picking between two schools…

1. A technology focused school that has a 90/10 Boy-Girl split.

2. A large public school with a solid technology program that has a 45/55 Boy-Girl split.

Be honest with yourself, you care about meeting girls you’re 17-23 and single, go with the second option. The difference in experience you’ll have over those 4 years will be worth every bit of the slight dip of career prospects you have coming out of school.

2. Join classes or clubs that are more attractive to women than men in general

What do I mean by this? Pretty simple, take a class or join a club that’s 80+ percent woman. You can do this in or out of school, although it’ll look different in each situation.

This could be taking a psychology or family studies class at your University, or joining one of your schools dance, pottery, or painting classes.

If you’re out of school this will look joining a group fitness class of basically any kind(group fitness classes are on average 78.4% women), more feminine ones like yoga, dance, or pilates are even better options though. Joining a feminine art class(pottery, painting, etc.) is also a great option. Pick which ever one seems the most interesting to you, and get in your cities scene.

I discuss these options more in-depth in my The Best Places to Meet Women in 2024 article.

3. Go to parties/clubs that are majority women.

The importance of the ratio is something every Frat Boy since the dawn of time has been aware of. If you’ve ever been to a frat party, or know someone in a frat you’ll know they do everything they can to keep the ratio as good as possible usually pushing to get at least 2 girls for every guy.

This is obviously very effective and is done to this day because of it. Whether you’re in a frat or not you should keep this in mind when deciding to attend any party/club. What’s the ratio at the party? What’s the ratio at the club? but this is most important when throwing a party…

If you’re throwing a party invite as few guys as possible and as many women as possible. I know you want to hook you’re guy friends up but if theres too many guys and too few girls no ones getting any. Don’t worry about how attractive the women you’re inviting are just bring as many as possible because it creates the dynamic of women needing the men. Hotter women are better of course, but more women should be you’re priority when throwing a party.

Clubs are notorious for having bad ratios and I don’t recommend them unless you’re hooked into the scene, but if you’re going to go make sure it’s a couple that has a good ratio. If you show up and the club has a bad ratio don’t even bother, dip and find a better club.

Conclusion

If you’re a single guy looking to find someone The Ratio is one of the key things to keep in mind everywhere you plan to regularly attend.

More options and less competition will make you’re dating life significantly easier no matter what, but especially if you’re average looking.

So focus on surrounding yourself with more women and things will get a lot easier. It’s not rocket science, but it does work.